According to last week’s Cougar Town “mid-week weddings are a little white trashy”. I was totally offended by this and immediately texted Derek to get his thoughts. He loves my panic stricken wedding texts let me tell ya. Then I googled it and surprisingly found that a lot of people agree. Especially this blog post.. The overall post made me feel like complete garbage for planning a Wednesday wedding, but the comments lifted my spirits a little bit, they were still very back and forth on the subject.
Frist of all..
- By 11-11-11 every Saturday was booked at every [afordable] venue until July of 2013 [apparently SA is a popular place]
- My church and reception cost the same regardless of the day of the week, so I’m not doing it to save money
- 95% of our guests will be traveling in from out of town [half of which are out of state] and airfare and hotels are less expensive during the week
- We’re getting married on the last triple date of our lifetime!
I’m already worried that no one is going to come to our wedding because it falls in the middle of the week and is so close to Christmas, so after reading that post I was feeling pretty horrible. I mean if you feel swindled as a guest, imagine what our poor wedding party is having to deal with. Bachelor/Bachelorette weekends, rehearsal dinners, the actual wedding, all of which fall during the week. I guess I just want to let everyone that’s involved in our big day know that we are forever grateful that you are taking time out of your busy and hectic lives to be a part of something so special to us. And please know that we would do the same for you.
We had our wedding on a Sunday which I guess is rude too. It nothing to do with money. It had to do with availability. I did not want to wait for a year to get married and the place was booked out for an entire year.
We had a wonderful turn out. All our friends had a great time dancing, eating and drinking. Yes, everyone had to work on Monday but that was okay. No one got stupid drunk at our wedding. It was lovely.
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I’m sure your families will be happy to celebrate with you, regardless of when it falls during the week. It makes it even more meaningful since it falls on a special day.
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Oh geez! Rule #1: take the Internet with a grain of salt. Everyone has their opinions!
You are not a horrible and selfish person. This is your special day that you will never get to do the same ever again. This day is about you and Derek. Everyone else can whine and complain all they want (even though I doubt most people won’t be). People are going to have opinions about the way you do your vows, how your hair and dress looks, etc. That’s not any different than what those might think of you having a Wednesday wedding.
I think it’s awesome that you are having a Wednesday wedding. It’s different, it’s a modern way of thinking (which fits you two), and it makes since with the date.
Don’t stress too much! Laugh it off and know that this will be the best day of your life, so far. You get to marry your once in a life time love! Lots of people don’t ever. Get that privilege! So that’s why they write blogs about hating weddings.
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When planning my wedding I found the best motto you can keep telling yourself is, “It’s our big day and no one else’s opinion matters.” We had parents and relatives complaining that our date was too close to another family wedding. We got married on 11/13/10 and people were saying it was too close to Thanksgiving.
FInally, we said forget it, we like this date and it make us happy! So, have fun, enjoy the process and let everyone else worry about the small stuff!
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Your post broke my heart!! You are SO not a selfish or horrible person, & ive never heard of a midweek wedding being “white trash”. This is you & your fiance’s big day- and that’s it. Everyone who matters (family, wedding party, friends) are going to be so excited and honored to share your day with you. Nothing but positive thoughts & energy. Your wedding party & guests will gladly make the necessary sacrifices for y’all, because this day only happens once!! Don’t worry too much :) no date is perfect for every single person trying to attend; y’all picked what works best for you & that is what really matters. On 12-13-12, the only thing people will talk about is how happy they are for you & Derek, how gorgeous you looked, & how much fun they had. :)
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Ok well, first of all the blog you are referring to is called “I Hate Weddings”. I mean, how much more pessimistic can you get? Sounds like just the title he/she wouldn’t approve of the wedding no matter when or where you had it.
Secondly, did you see all the comments on that post? Everyone did not agree with that!
& Third, the people who mean the most to you will come to your wedding whenever it is because they LOVE you. It is your day and you can pick when it is. No matter when you have it, weekend or not, someone is going to have a schedule conflict, so you just have to plan it for when makes YOU happy & then whoever can come, will come. Believe me if you tried to plan around everyone you know, you would never get married. I got married on a Friday morning so Im probably a horrible person too. & I’m sure everyone that attended did not find it ideal, but I did not hear one complaint from my family :)
Ok, rant over :)
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The most important people are YOU, DEREK and a Priest. It would not be much of a wedding if Derek could’t come cause he is studying for finals or working on a project! Dan and I were married on a Thursday night, the night of the 100 year flood! We invited 90 people, 75 showed! Your parents and Derek’s parents will be there, even if it was 6 AM on a Tuesday.
Your wedding will be awesome!!!! and there will be a glitch or 2, but even this will pass. By 12-13-12 you will be an old married couple.
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I think it’s a totally personal decision! And honestly, if your guests are going to be miffed over what day you want to get married on, you probably don’t want them there on your day anyway! People who love you will be there regardless.
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I see a wonderful couple who has been on an adventure not all of us are ever able to have. Your love for each other and the life you will build together will far outshine any “opinions from the peanut gallery”. We all love you and support Your choices. From 11-11-11 to 12-12-12 those dates will be remembered as 2 of the most JOYOUS OCCATIONS you will have experienced. No telling what other dates will follow. Love you BTB AND GTB ….MOB :-)
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Edwina Reply:
March 14th, 2012 at 2:43 PM
Yes, 10 X
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Wow you guys! Thank you SO much for all of the lovely words. I feel a lot better about the whole mid-week wedding thing. And everyone is right, if they love us, then they won’t mind taking some time off to be a part of our special day. You guys are wonderful btw :)
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Hey! Thanks for your comment on my blog : )
Just putting in my two cents: it’s your wedding; do what you want. The people that matter will be there. If people feel like it’s rude or inconvenient, they don’t have to come. Easy peasy.
We got married on a Sunday…and it kept our bar tab down : )
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Posh posh … that’s ridiculous!! Do it your way! And if we’re invited we’ll definitely be there! :)
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Have to say… Had never heard of that. I don’t think it’s white trashy. It’s just during the week. It is what it is. And honestly, being as it’s your wedding, it’s your perogative. The point isn’t anything about how convenient it is for the rest of us.
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you are the most selfish person i know! ugh.
:P i just had to.
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You should check out http://www.apracticalwedding.com it will make you feel better – basically your wedding is not an imposition to anybody so if people don’t like a mid week wedding it is their problem not yours. New follower and really enjoying your blog xox
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